When we first meet someone, we tend to focus only on the things we love about them. However, as our relationships move out of the exciting new growth phase, we may find ourselves focusing on what is wrong with the other person. Sharing these negative observations with our friends and family can amplify these emotions. When we focus on what we like, we only see the good, and when we focus on what we don’t like, we only see the bad.
One of the big relationship traps is acting with impatience with our loved ones. Don’t fall into the ease of using impatience. Practice acting with patience, even when you don’t feel like it. It will keep your mind calm, your muscles relaxed, and you will be more open to solutions and hearing your Divine Guidance.
Practicing patience means choosing thoughts and words that are more harmonious. When we act in a positive and loving way, it can only strengthen our relationships.
I grew up in a family that is very industrious and ambitious, and we were often impatient with one another. In fact, it was a family joke at how impatient we could all be at times. I have been working intimately and diligently with my Spiritual Coach, Archangel Michael, for the past 17 years. One of the big themes we have been working on is patience—and yes, he has been very patient with me as I take two steps forward, one step back, and then two steps back again.
When we are learning a new behavioral skill, we will always have plenty of people to practice it on. It’s okay to move forward and then take a few steps backwards, because this is how we learn and grow. What really matters is focusing on the pathway, and not on the end result. The end result is a natural outcome when we focus on the pathway.
Some of the daily practices I use successfully are working with my beliefs, emotions, and actions. I have been using success statements such as “I am patient” and “I accept people as they are.” I was well rewarded when my family visited in May and my sister exclaimed, “Bridget, something is different about you – you are patient.”
It is always helpful to use role models. Mine is Merlin, my Havenese dog. Every day he consistently acts with love, joy, and gratitude. He reminds me to act from the higher places of love and patience, and to give the gift of patience to others, so that I can continue this cycle of loving energy.